Kindness is a hidden software engineering superpower
Kindness is a hidden superpower for software engineers. It helps your peers feel safe, and if they feel safe people take the risks that enable efficient, honest communication and thus real collaboration.
We have a mechanism that creates unhappiness, difficulty changing habits, relationship problems, frustration, anger and disappointment. We are usually not aware of this, but it is happening continuously and in all of us.
A good, blameless feedback culture is essential for working together efficiently as it forms healthy relationships, fuels personal and professional growth and aligns us with common norms. Feedback is one of the cornerstones of company culture.
Everyone agrees that constant learning and having a growth mindset are fundamental to success in software engineering. Yet once you are done with onboarding at your new job as a software engineer the rat race seems to begin, leaving no dedicated time for learning.
Conducting good 1:1 sessions is one of the most frustrating skills new engineering leads need to learn. Read about best practices that worked for me on both sides of this relationship – as an engineer and as an engineering manager. I’ll also mention some common pitfalls to avoid.